Getting Ready for Valentine's Day

I am starting to think about Valentine's Day so I thought I would blog about how I met my husband:

First-this is to all the single ladies out there-Have you ever heard someone say "You will find a boyfriend when you stop looking" ? Well I believe this is totally true. Maybe it is some vibe we put out without knowing but this is true. ~and this was my case.

I had my first boyfriend when I was 14. From then on I basically was never single for long. I have never gone a long period of time without someone I was dating or a boyfriend. However, I am very proud of myself that I felt very comfortable with breaking up with someone I didn't feel I want to date long term. If I went on a first date with someone and I didn't want to date them I was very honest with them and maybe I am lucky, but we were always friendly about it and remained friends with no hard feelings. So from the age of 14-20 it was a constant revolving door of boyfriends or dates, but after breaking up with one boyfriend I was always looking for the next boy. It felt like 6 years of looking. In these 6 years......I had 3 long term boyfriends (none lasted over a year) with a sprinkling of first maybe a second or third date 'dating' relationships sprinkled inbetween.

Well my boyfriend right before I met my husband (lets call him A) I was with for 5 months. He was an amazing kisser!!! and was probably the best looking guy I have ever been with. But, I was not in love with him and knew I never would be. He was the hardest guy to break up with (probably because he was so very good looking and such a great kisser!!!) but I knew I had to. I really did not want to waste my time.

Well, after I broke up with A (I broke up with him right after Valentine's Day of 2002). I had this epiphany, for the first time in my life I was not going to look for the next. I was going to stop looking and thinking about boys and stop saying yes to every date I was asked out on. I was a spring semester sophmore in college. Well again, I broke up with A in February. That April (just 2 months later) my friend J asked me to go to a party with her friend K at K's boyfriend's house. I really didn't want to go, but J begged me and I said ok. Well since I really didn't want to go and I didn't care about boys I just threw on a pair of jeans and a t-shirt and tossed my hair in a ponytail and went to the party. Well Wesley was at this party. Actually K's boyfriend is his best friend and best man at our wedding. At this party K asked what I thought of Wes and I said, "He is nice I guess." She said he was single and that we would be good together and asked if I wanted her to put in a good word for me. I said no, I didn't want a boyfriend or a date. Well she did anyways (didn't know this until later) and Wes ended up giving me glances and being really sweet to me. The next night (Friday) I went to this same person's house with J and K and Wes was there again. This night S (whose house is was and Wes's friend) asked if Wes and I have met. Wes then said, "I have seen you before at the Video Store." (Oh, I worked a video store at this time) (I totally don't remember him as a customer) Way later that night he asked me to go outside with him in the back yard and he played his guitar and sang for me. Really cheesy I know and I thought that at the time, but I also thought was very brave. He also told me that when he saw me at the Video Store he thought I was very pretty.

Well a whole bunch of us slept at S's house that night (I slept alone on the couch thank you very much) and the next morning (Saturday) S, K, Wes, and I decided to go frisbee golfing. After frisbee golfing (as we were driving home) S and K wanted to stop at a gas station. While they were in there Wes asked me for my phone number. Then he drove us to our cars and that was it.

Well the next day Sunday, he called, but I was not home and didn't get the message. Either my brother or dad anwsered the phone) Again I was not looking for anyone so after I went to bed Sunday I really thought 'oh well' again I was not looking to date anyone.

Monday, he called and I answered, during the phone conversation he asked if I got the message that he called yesterday. I didn't (this is when I learned he did call on Sunday) He then asked he out of the next weekend. I didn't really want to say yes because I was taking a break from guys. But I did say yes. We went mini-golfing. We then talked several times and went out to eat twice and then he asked me if I wanted to be his girlfriend and I said yes and we have been together ever since. In June we will of been married 3 years and been together 8. He is my best friend and I found him when I stopped looking!!!!!!!