Please let me vent a little......ok a lot

I actually just got inspired from someone else's blog for a post.....it is something I have been thinking about for the past two years and something that has been confusing me. I am not sure if the person who gave me the idea wants to be mentioned so I won't just in case, but I am sure she can figure it out since I left her a comment that is similar:

I am a substitute teacher. When I first graduated college I tried to get a teaching job the first two school years out of college. After not getting a job for two years I then decided that I had to get a full time job doing something else outside of my degree so I did. In that time I got engaged and then married. Before we got married I told my husband that I really want to be a stay at home mom and he said he totally supported me in eventually doing so. I was engaged for 14 months before the wedding (planning time) and during this time the job I worked at made me very unhappy to the point where I would be crying on the drive home and sad at night. I really wanted to quit, but because of my wedding and because I lived on my own I really needed the full time money. I think the fact that I had an amazing wedding to look forward and a fiancee that I loved made this time bearable. I even told him I wanted to quit and we talked about it and he said after the wedding and honeymoon I could quit and start subbing. After a few years of marriage and buying a house (which we did 2 months after the wedding) we were going to start trying for a baby and the plan was for me to coast along subbing and then be a stay at home mom at the right time. I did not tell anyone of the plan. Well last August we started trying to have a baby (and followers of my blog know that I stopped trying jan, feb, and march of this year because I didn't want to have a baby in oct, nov, and dec....I have already talked about this) So basically sept, oct, nov, dec '09 and april and may of '10 so that is only 5 months of trying and for someone who was on the pill as long as I was I am not shocked I did not get pregnant in the last part of '09. (we started so late in Aug that I am not even going to count it because I was past my fertile time...that is just the month I stopped taking pills.)

Anyways,

What I am getting at is the fact that I had last summer 100% off and I have this summer 100% off. When people talk to me about my summers I get really rude comments and dirty looks because I have summers off.....these are the comments I get: "Don't you get bored?" "Why don't you find a part-time job in the summer?" "Is your husband OK with that?" "What do you do?" etc etc. My parents are the worst (they are divorced) my mom keeps telling me to get a part time job and my dad keeps sending me job openings. I wish they would stop. In high school I made my own money and never once asked them for money....I have lived on my own since I was 19 and have NEVER asked them for money....NEVER. I have never been late on a payment.....never been late on a bill.....my credit is wonderful......I am talking my bills have 100% been paid on time every time....and I have never borrowed from a friend or family member...I even (well my husband and I) paid for most of our wedding our self (my wedding is the ONE time I had a little money from my parents and that is all)

My friends are upset about it to and make me feel bad. They can't believe I don't work in the summer. I don't want to get a classroom just to quit........

Why do people care and make me feel bad? My husband is ok with it and all our bills are paid. Also my college loans are set up to be a 10 year loan and I am projected (if I keep the over payments I am making now) to be paid off in Oct.....that means only 5 years....I am going to pay off a 10 year loan in 5 years!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My car was a 5 year loan I paid off in 2.5 years.


None of my friends and family members can say they have never been late or missed a payment and paid off loans so earlier..........but people are so weirded out and upset because I have summers off....

oh and another thing is because of how much my husband makes and my income added to his....if I make much more we will be in a higher tax bracket so we would pay more for taxes.

Why do people care so much and I want the comments and looks to stop!!!

Also, people are not too shy to ask me to pick them up at the airport or have deliveries that need signed delivered to my house or other odds and ends that need to be done in the daytime.

Oh. one more thing. I have had a job since I was 15 earlier if you count babysitting. I worked full time in high school and college and still played varsity sports in high school....many of the friends who have given me grief did not have a job in high school or college and their parents paid their tuition.